Re: Regarding EVALUATE TRUE
- From: docdwarf@xxxxxxxxx ()
- Date: Thu, 23 Aug 2007 00:39:46 +0000 (UTC)
In article <1187813866.785920.240410@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>,
klshafer@xxxxxxx <klshafer@xxxxxxx> wrote:
Pete Dashwood wrote:
Just a note in passing...
As I never attended an American College, I find the use of the
formal "Mr" to be unfriendly and cold... <minor snips>
If people wish to communicate with me here, please, use my name.
Adopting
the formal, indicates displeasure or hostility as far as I am concerned.
Frank Swarbrick wrote:
Just want to say that I agree with this. It is quite possible that people
here are using "Mr so-and-so" here in a respectful manner, but my first
impression is that the intention is to be insulting.
But soft... as has been told to folks new to the UseNet e'er-so-often,
'first, you watch'; one needs to be careful of becoming the target of a
Shavian (Caesar and Cleopatra) 'Pardon him. Theodotus: he is a barbarian,
and thinks that the customs of his tribe and island are the laws of
nature.'
With Doc I honestly
have no idea. He's very hard to read. :-)
How can this be? I am speaking the finest of Englishes, all the doo-dah
day!
[snip]
I do believe that time once was the same view was held regarding use
of first names. Yes, I have friends, and I have business associates,
and sometimes they are the same, but sometimes not. The use of "Mr."
helps makes that distinction, albeit in a respectful way. To do
otherwise is to, ahem, "take liberties."
.... and there you have it. On the one hand to do as I do is to be cold,
distant and excessively formal... on the other hand not doing as I do is
overly familiar and libertarian... errrr, libertinage... errrrr, warm,
close and insufficiently formal.
When in doubt about how a person's expressions are intended I do one of
two things, usually: I ask... or I try to ignore the expressions and focus
on what I see as the reasoning behind them.
[snip]
Of one thing I am certain Miss Manners would agree with. Once
requested by an individual to be addressed in a certain way, it is
impolite not to do so.
On the other hand... when one sees another using a form of address
universally then to demand Special Treatment is also impolite... and
perhaps it is possibly presumptuous, as well. What to do?
[snip]
As for addressing "the Doc", well you're all on your own, but somehow,
I feel safe with him. :-)
Ahhhh... and now he is lulled into a false sense of security, his wariness
made faint by my feints... drop into a crouch, pause, *lunge*...
damnation, there's my bad leg again... will someone help me up, please?
DD
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